How We Relate To Others
All Becomes Clear
Lois finds after a period of reflection and thought that she admires Joni's artistic abilities and she relates to her perspective on the world and society. She thinks Joni is saying important things and she is inspired to say things herself and express her own creativity even more. She wants to be more like Joni. A free spirit with a deep soul.
She realises that Fiona values the way people look, how they dress and Lois realises wants to express her own style
and sense of fun more authentically
whilst retaining her deepest held values.
She realises that Michael is quite domineering, he is so self-assured. Lois recognises that she wants to spend time defining her own values, so she is as self-assured and is able to express them clearly and strongly if and when necessary. In that way if Michael challenges her or has opinions or ways she disagrees with - then she can quietly and confidently put across her own point of view.
By reflecting on our relationship with others and the feelings they bring out in us, we can begin to deal with issues and opportunities that have previously been eluding us.
It's Our Responsibility To Understand
Understanding our relationships with those around us is fundamental to our lives both personal and professional. Why do some make our heart stir and others leave us cold? Why do some people inspire us to action and others motivate us to find the nearest exit?
It's Us Not Them
It is well accepted psychologically that when others inspire or offend us the issue is not about the other but about ourselves. It is within us. So here's an example to illustrate the point and how to work through and root out issues that may be preventing you express yourself fully.
Lois Takes A Look
Take four people - Joni Mitchell, the singer, Fiona, the PR, Michael, the FD and Lois Lane, a fictional character. This scenario is seen through the eyes of Lois Lane. It is Lois Lane's growth we are witnessing.
Lois loves Joni - she thinks she's amazing, she's hippy, cool, bohemian, beautiful, talented and soulful. Lois dislikes someone she knows called Fiona, who is a PR and Lois can't understand why Fiona drives her nuts. Fiona is beautiful and talented too. She also knows the FD at her newspaper, Michael - who she tolerates when she meets him in passing but who she would much rather avoid altogether. Yet Michael is talented and well meaning. Lois starts to wonder what is it about these three people that bring out the different moods in her. She'd rather enjoy time with each of them and not be affected.